Melissa Hull, HCI Heart-Centered Life Coach • November 15, 2022 • 3 Minute Read
Coaching Success Stories: Melissa
Why I Became A Heart-Centered Life Coach
What’s a heart-centered life coach? Here’s how I marry the vision of the heart with the intellect of the mind to create dramatic results.
All of my life, I’ve been seen as “emotional” or “dramatic.” You see, I’m a big feeler of my emotions. When I love, I love big. When I hurt, I hurt big.
But living so openly does tend to leave you vulnerable to heartache. To experiences that make you want to contract, make yourself smaller. And after a while of living with my heart wide open, I began to protect myself instead. Certain life experiences made me feel like it wasn’t safe to be authentic in my feelings. Life had altered my relationship with my heart. Over the years, I went from being in constant connection with my heart to … not trusting my heart in decisions big and small. Until one day I decided that kind of life just wasn’t enough for me.
Reconnecting to the Heart
For a long time, life was ok most days and even pretty good some days. But it wasn’t great. Life didn’t feel like I hoped it could. And it wasn’t until I spent time reconnecting to my heart that I discovered the truth. It was all just a set of beliefs.
My life experiences, for example, had taught me that my friends wouldn’t be there for me. But that belief was tied to an experience from middle school – and years later, I was still operating under that false belief. But I knew I could get back to that place if I reconnected to my heart again. That’s why I choose to align with my heart today.
You see, the heart is a place where we can find inner strength and wisdom. It will tell us when we’re out of balance or when someone has violated a healthy boundary. Typically our minds override the voice of the heart. The voice of the mind is loud and fast-paced and distracting. It rationalizes everything we feel into a story or a behavior or a reaction. It will confront people. It will criticize you. To the point where you can become your own worst enemy. Your mind will tell you that you’re stupid. It will shout WHAT were you thinking?! And it will make sure you never forget a failure or a misstep. Your mind tells you things that just aren’t true. But listening to your heart is different than listening to your mind.
Because your heart is clear. It will tell you that you are good enough.
That you are loved.
Worthy. Capable. Strong.
Your heart has nothing but compassion for all the things you try and all the moments you open yourself up for.
Because it tells the truth.
My heart is the greater of the two, the wiser of the two – but when you can marry the intellect of the mind with the gift of the heart, well, that’s when you’re really onto something.
Coaching the Mind
Once you reconnect with your heart, you’ll have clarity, connection and insight – a clear vision for your next steps. Whatever you’re searching for, your heart will reveal it. But it’s your mindset that allows you to stick to that vision. You see, your heart gives you the vision, and your mind gives you the willingness to see it through. For me, that requires clarity, accountability and support. It requires a coach.
One of the reasons I love working with a coach is the mindset transformations and the results. With a coach, you have a dedicated person in your life who’s partnering with you to not necessarily revisit the past but to grow through it. That’s the difference between a therapist and a coach. A therapist diagnoses traumas of the past and focuses on healing; a coach acknowledges the trauma and looks for a way to strengthen your inner resources and move Forward.
A coach helps you look toward the future, build momentum, re-align with your goals, and create the outcomes you only dreamed were possible. They don’t give you the answers, but they ask you the questions that open up new ways of thinking. They can help you acknowledge patterns that have previously alluded you.
But one of the most powerful components of good coaching is accountability. That’s what I hear most often from the women I work with on a daily basis. The questions really help them see things in a new light.
Then they find the greatest value when I ask how I can provide support and accountability. Knowing I will check in – that I’m personally invested in their progress – keeps them feeling motivated and committed to creating the life they want most. In many ways, coaches accelerate the timeline of your growth to get the results you’re looking for. And my specialty is helping women find a new level of acceptance, confidence and fulfillment that they never thought possible before.
Getting Results That Matter
With this specialized training, I’m bringing the heart into life coaching, and I have to say, we’re seeing incredible results! The women I partner with are willing to shake things up and ask for more. And that’s exactly what they’re getting from this heart-centered work: more joy, more purpose, more confidence, more creativity, more strength. They’re unlocking a new vision for their lives and finding unparalleled joy in the journey.
Melissa Hull , HCI Certified Life Coach